The holiday season is a time of joy and togetherness, but also brings stress. If your partner has a complicated relationship with their parents, and you know it’s the time of the year to see them, here are some tips to get through the holiday dinner:
1. We Listen & Don’t Judge: Give your partner space to express their concerns and frustrations before the gathering starts. Instead of offering solutions immediately, validate their feelings and tell them you’re there to hear them out.
2. Setting Boundaries: Discuss boundaries beforehand after they’ve let it out. Whether deciding how long to stay (or knowing when to leave) or what not to bring up in conversation, having a plan can help your partner feel more in control.
3. Be a Buffer When Needed: During the gathering, help steer conversations away from sensitive topics or gently redirect any tension. Sometimes, just being present can diffuse uncomfortable situations and make the family less likely to act out.
4. Embrace Positive Moments: Encourage your partner to find small moments of joy during the holidays, whether decorating, sharing traditions, or spending time with family they enjoy being around. Focusing on the positives can help balance the stress.
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